Which means that after this post, you’ve got a little more than 200 days to learn how to stop taking other people’s bullsh!t before you start another year feeling regret and falling down another rabbit hole of toxic friendships, lies, and just bad vibes all around. Is this me being salty right now? Possibly. Maybe. Who knows? 🤷🏻♀️
1. You’re not stupid. Listen to your gut.
If something doesn’t feel right, do something about those feelings.
2. If someone’s bluffing, call them out.
The same thing applies to the flakey or backstabbing friend: call. them. out. They deserve it. Sometimes, they might not even realize their BS. Other times, they know it but don’t think you sense it. Surprise, Karen: we know you’re BS-ing this.
3. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
Listen, I’m all about giving second chances and leaving room for doubt in certain people in certain scenarios, but there always comes a point where if this person has stood you up or hurt you before, it’s time to stop putting up with it.
4. Confrontation is key.
This goes both ways: first, confront yourself and acknowledge the fact that hey, this is absolute BS, and then second, confront the person who is giving you said BS. People who don’t treat you like you’re worth it aren’t worth your time, energy, or thought. I know it’s tough to come to terms with this especially if in the past they’ve been different, but if there bullsh!t patterns suddenly become regular, pull the plug.
5. There are always other options.
I know this may not always seem like it, but trust me, it’s true. Shady, toxic friend? Drop them, there are 7 billion other people in this world. Boss or teacher treating you badly? Either let them know or talk to one of their superiors. Didn’t get the grade you want? Seek extra credit. Got onto the wrong train? Get off and find another one.
You see, at the end of the day, there exists a simple fact of the world: life’s too short to deal with BS. Not only does it waste your time and energy, but why would you put up with bad vibes and lies when you could find genuine people and better opportunities elsewhere, without all the bullsh!t?
Exactly. So stop taking BS and start living a better life.
Let me know in the comment sections about any instance where you’ve had to deal with BS, what you did about it, or what you wish you had done about it. Honestly, completely rant if you have to. I love talking to you guys, so make sure to hit me up on either Instagram (@ellewenn), Twitter (@elleforlife), or even Snapchat (add me @ayeeellen).